The all important proposal: Private or Public?

Proposal written in vapour trail

Prior to getting engaged I always thought I wanted the big public engagement, an aeroplane gliding along with the all important words, chilled champagne, people clapping and taking photos. A true celeb moment! After my engagement I am so grateful my Chris didn’t turn my dream into a reality!

Whether your proposal was private or public, getting engaged is the best day ever! It is a day of happiness, overload of emotions and tiredness?! Well that is exactly what happened to me!

For me, it was a mixture of a surprise and already knowing it was coming. How did I know? Well…my father phoned everyone to inform them that a wedding will take place (right after Chris asked for his permission, I don’t even think Chris made it past the driveway). This is a traditional Indian thing to do. In the past my family have had numerous phone calls where the bride or grooms father would call relatives and friends to inform them of the happy news. Indians do not simply wait for a save the date, we like to know well in advance if there is family wedding; so I was inundated with congratulation messages from family prior to the proposal! After responding to the messages informing people that I was ‘Indian engaged and not ‘officially engaged’ I put weddings to the back of my head and carried on acting normal in front of Chris as I didn’t want him disheartened that his surprise was no longer a big surprise.

The proposal

A few weeks passed and then it FINALLY happened on a day I would never have expected…Valentines Day! Very cliché I know, but Chris and I never celebrate Valentines Day so to me if was a normal Saturday morning. I woke up to a photo treasure hunt around our new home that we were decorating. I simply assumed Chris decided he wanted to celebrate Valentines Day and as it was early, my brain was not ready to put 2 and 2 together. I was hoping the hunt would lead to a tasty fry up.

The photos led me around the house to the final destination, our brand new bathroom (the only room I liked in the house at the time) and on the mirror it said ‘will you marry me?’ Chris was on one knee, I said YES and it was all very emotional and surreal. So what were my first thoughts?

  1. I hope he didn’t use my mac lipstick to write that
  2. How am I going to get that off my brand new mirror
  3. And lastly OMG I AM ENGAGED

So as you can see, it was a bit of a delayed reaction on my part. We then celebrated with a champagne breakfast and decided to head out ring shopping (he proposed with a temporary ring as he is fully aware of how fussy I am). Now, I don’t know if it was the bubbles or the shock but I felt a sudden urge to lie down. My head hit the pillow and I was out like a light for a couple of hours. Not the romance Chris was expecting!

So there you have it, my surprise, not surprise private proposal! To some it may not be the fairytale proposal but to me it was perfect, personal, private and a pivotal moment in my life.

I love hearing about all different types of proposals. If you would like to share your precious moment, please get it touch.

My proposal tips and ideas


If you fancy a personal, intimate proposal where it is just the two of you these ideas could be just for you.

  1. A picnic in a secluded area. Surrey Hills have some fantastic walks and breath taking views
  2. Make a personalised book including memories you have shared. On the last page of the book write the all important words
  3. Enjoy a hot drink together and write ‘will you marry me’ at the bottom of the mug using a sharpie




If you want a show stopping proposal why not try…

  1. In your favourite museum whilst looking at some romantic art or an exhibition
  2. New years eve whilst watching fireworks surrounded by lots of people.
  3. Hire a musical and get them to play your favourite song during your proposal.
  4. During a night out, arrange to propose with the mic surrounded by family and friends


Image source: google images

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1 Comment

  1. Great blog! Do you have any tips for aspiring writers?

    I’m planning to start my own site soon but I’m a little lost on everything.
    Would you propose starting with a free platform like WordPress or go for a paid option? There are so
    many choices out there that I’m completely confused .. Any ideas?
    Bless you!

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